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Have you ever noticed how often you say, “I’m sorry?” I recently saw a campaign that Pantene is running and they’re trying to get the word out to women to stop apologizing when you have nothing to apologize for. 

A new video from Pantene’s #ShineStrong series shows a number of situations where women say “sorry” for things they shouldn’t — and the results will hit home with many viewers. Studies show that women apologize more than men, often for perfectly reasonable acts like, you know, taking up space. The scenes of women apologizing for asking a question, not immediately anticipating someone else’s needs and asking for something they want or need are eerily familiar. –The Huffington Post

You should really watch the video. It shows both when women apologize for something they shouldn’t have to apologize for and then it shows when women don’t and it’s basically the same meaning. I’m not like running a campaign for this or anything but it’s really made me more aware of how often I use “I’m sorry” for “excuse me.” Like, why do I say, “I’m sorry” when I have to move out of someone’s way in the hallway? Or why do I say, “I’m sorry, but could I ask you a question?” I’ve actually really forced myself to be more aware before something comes out of my mouth. Yes, in my head I’ll still say, “I’m sorry,” but when it comes out, I typically will revise it. I’ve also noticed how EVERY WOMAN DOES THIS. When I’m at Pure Barre, when we’re grabbing equipment or putting equipment away, there’s at least three girls that will tell me they’re sorry and I start to cringe now. There’s nothing to be sorry about!! Anyway, watch the video!

I’m still having a full-fledged love affair with Pure Barre. If you’ve never done it before, here are exactly 100 thoughts I have when I go through a class. Freaking hilarious and every thought is spot on.


The organization freak in me wants to get all this for my office. You can shop by color (OMG, I want the hot pink and purple and mint and coral..haha) or just by whatever OCD-moment you’re feeling. I’m obsessed. I


Don’t judge a book by its cover. I know these look very teeny-lover-ish but I promise you, they’re GOOOOOD. I mean, they’re young adult but YA is totally making a comeback. Anyway, I literally LAUGH OUT LOUD at these books. I read “In Between” first and it was freaking hilarious. The main character, Katie Parker, has a great personality and sarcasm and I honestly could see myself in her or at least having coffee with her. After I read In Between, I looked for another book but then went back and bought “On the Loose,” cause I really didn’t want the series to end and I wanted to see where Katie Parker was gonna go with her life. Oh my goodness, I haven’t read a series in a while that I thoroughly enjoyed so much. Katie’s adventures with her foster parents, foster grandmother, and friends are hilarious. I was reading On the Loose at the doctor’s waiting room and was busting out laughing. I’ll be reading in bed and all of a sudden crack the heck up. Y’all – get on these books! There’s a touch of religion in this (which I totally didn’t realize before getting into the books) but it isn’t overly evasive. She just goes to church, tries to figure out her faith, and there are prayers in there before dinner and sometimes when she’s at church but they don’t ruin the book at all. It’s just part of the storyline so even if you aren’t religious (like me), you’ll still ADORE these books.

In Between is free for Amazon Prime members right now (Kindle version) and On the Loose and The Big Picture are only $3.99 – the covers on Amazon are different than on Goodreads – they republished them this summer with less teeny-bopper covers? I don’t know, but they’re the same book! :) ANNNNNNNNNNNND I just found out that the author is releasing a 4th book in this series because of how popular Katie Parker is. You have to read books 2 + 3 to get why she had to release a 4th though cause she kind of left it in a cliffhanger at the end of book 2 where you get a preview of something that happens years down the line but in book 3, it’s like the present. Does that make sense? Probably not. Just go buy these books :)


I feel like whenever I read, I’m like bi-polar. I go from super happy/funny to depressing. Anyway, Jodi Picoult is one of my favorite authors and I picked up The Pact ($2.99 for Kindle right now) and it’s a heart-wrenching story about a couple, Chris and Emily, who’s families have grown up next door to one another and it was just “natural” for Chris and Emily to fall in love and get married. Well, now Chris is being accused of killing Emily in a suicide pact gone wrong. The book explores very sensitive topics and you teeter-totter between present and past and get a glimpse into why this pact even happened and you get to know Chris and Emily growing up, too. It’s a very moving read and it’s definitely not light but it’s engrossing so if you’re up for something somber, I highly recommend this, especially for the price right now!


Lately, I’ve been obsessing over my day/night face routine because I don’t know, I fear wrinkles. Luckily (or so I’m told) I’m Asian so I haven’t had the onset of aging yet (seriously – every time I bring up the wrinkle talk, I get, “whatever, you’re Asian, you probably won’t even age til 60”) but I’m allllll about preventative care right now and I’ve scoured the interwebs and talked to people at Sephora, Blue Mercury, and Ulta about my fear and they’re like, “um you’re fine right now with what you’re using.” So I thought I’d put together a little graphic of what I’m using for preventative care. These products – I SWEAR by them. Like, I don’t know what I’d do without them and no, this isn’t an ad for any of them (although it totally looks like a huge Kiehl’s ad) and I’m not getting paid..this is just what I’m totally digging.


  • Fresh Lotus Youth Preserve Face Cream – this has a light refreshing spa scent. It smells like cucumbers so if you have an aversion for that, you probably don’t want to use it. I like it cause it keeps my face moisturized all day and since it’s “youth preserve” it does just that. I mean, I guess it’s keeping me young – I can’t really “tell” cause I don’t have wrinkles yet but I’m assuming it’s doing its job cause it’s preserving my youth, haha
  • Kiehl’s Avocado Eye Treatment – everyone raves about this product and I have nothing but good things to say. It keeps my eyes nice and moisturized and I really like that it doesn’t migrate into your eyes. I wear contacts and that’s a huge thing for me! A little goes a LONG way so don’t be shocked at the price and the size of the bottle. I’ve had mine for over 8 months now and I’ve barely put a dent in it.
  • Kiehl’s Creme de Corps – I don’t use this for my face (obviously) but I use it as my body moisturizer and after using it for 6 months, I can tell you this shit is amazing. I have chronic dry skin – like alligator skin year round and my legs are SO GROSS and scaly (sorry, TMI?) but after using this lotion for 6 months, I’ve noticed a HUUUUGE difference in my legs. No longer scaly and alligator-like and it does wonders for me in the winter. I slather this all over my arms, legs, etc. I buy it in the liter pump bottle cause I literally use it day and night, everyday.


  • Kiehl’s Creme de Corps – I use it at night before I go to bed. In the winter, I’ll sometimes switch with coconut oil depending on how gross my skin is. If I’m using coconut oil, I do it after I shower and let it soak in for a good 20 minutes.
  • Kiehl’s Calendula Deep Cleansing Foaming Face Wash – I don’t love the smell of this because it smells, I don’t know, like ammonia to me, but I know it’s not anything as harsh as that, haha – it’s a gel and you only need a dime size amount cause once you add water and rub it between your hands, it foams up nicely so you can wash your face with it. It leaves my skin feeling dewy and clean. It doesn’t dry it out and I can use it with my Clarisonic.
  • Olay Regenerist Night Recovery Cream – ok so adding to my facial wrinkle freakout, I didn’t realize that you need to get your neck and chest area too otherwise you’d be like gobble neck. So after researching for a bit and not finding what I want for a night cream for the face and neck area, I went to Costco and stumbled upon this Olay cream. I pulled up the internet and it’s gotten really good reviews. I love the scent; although some people have said they think it’s overpowering. I think it smells just fine. It’s floral-y. It’s also thick so you don’t need a lot and it leaves your skin REALLY silky smooth. Like a baby’s butt. I haven’t noticed much difference ’cause I just started using it, but again, preventative!
  • Kiehl’s Midnight Recovery Eye – I got a sample of it and I’m still using it. It’s supposed to keep bags and dark circles away but I’ve never had issues with that so I can’t say for certain it’s helping. I’m just going to use this until my sample runs out and then find another eye night cream ’cause this one isn’t something I foresee myself using in the long run. Any suggestions?!

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Saturday 17th of January 2015

Super late to this conversation, but I love Clinique Moisture Surge! And also Elizabeth Arden's Eight Hour line!

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Wednesday 13th of August 2014

I'm SO glad you mentioned that In Between is free on Prime because I'm definitely going to read it now! :) I read The Pact years ago and bawled my eyes out, if I remember right.

Stephanie @ Eat. Drink. Love.

Sunday 10th of August 2014

I need to up my skin routine. Going to check some of these out!

Liz @ FloatingKitchen

Friday 8th of August 2014

Great products and great reads! Watching that "sorry" video was painful, because I could see myself doing all those things. Now I'm going to be more aware of it!


Friday 8th of August 2014

I want to try all those Kiehls products now!!